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MONEY IN A RELATIONSHIP

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MONEY

Money is one of the most common areas of marital conflict. What's the reason? The concept of money.

People, in a general view, consider money as simply maths, but the concept of money hides a huge point, their own meaning from each one. So, what's mean that? Citizens have a different conception about what an euro is worth and where it should go.

Speaking with your partner about money's priorities is higly reccomended, the due to the fact that you would avoid coming disputes.

Dr Gottman suggets a very simple activity to discover in which point is the couple about this topic. Imagine your income were to increase right now by 20%, what would you do with the extra money?

Through this way, you can find out whether you and your couple have a similar conception.

Taking these points into consideration, I could say that the most important about money in a relationship is to work as a team.

SEX

In this point, I'm going to start with the conclusion.

Good sex is very much interrelated with intimate trust, friendship and conversations that create emotional connection.

Conversely, impersonal sex is more fun or what Dr Gottman calls “erotic activity not founded on emotional connection and adoration of the partner” because it doesn't involve the hard work of intimacy building.

So, this type of sex sounds the best, isn't it? I'm afraid not.

According to the writer, fun is not the point, the point (in commited) relationships is sharing the body, the mind and even the soul, which is not fun, in fact this is difficult and risky.

As a result, while personal sex is definitely work, it's so much better.